Archive for the 'Heart Talks' Category


Living and Dying Well Today

Sunday, July 8th, 2007

The longer I live the more I realize that not only is it important for us to learn how to live well, it is also important for us to learn how to die well too.  I’ve written before about how a good friend of mine invited our group of friends to know him even more intimately as a friend after he was diagnosed as being HIV Positive.  We were all given the privilege of walking through the day to day “being-ness” with our friend Norbert as he faced living and dying.  One of the biggest lessons I learned was that each person gets to trip the light fantastic to their death as they see fit.  It is not for me or any other loved one of theirs to put our beliefs, inspirations and fear onto them. We can share, of course, our own experience, strength and hope but in the final outcome how a person chooses to live and die is their own personal choice. (more…)

Desensitization, Detachment and Virginia Tech

Monday, April 23rd, 2007

To all family, friends, and people affected by the horrific and sad shootings at

Virginia Tech, please accept my heartfelt sympathy.  I know that I am joined by many others who are keeping you in their thoughts and prayers. (more…)

How to Use Creativity When Your Brain is Stuck!

Wednesday, April 11th, 2007

During a coaching session today a particularly talented client discovered how he could teach his very powerful brain to get out of the way of his heart so that he could recognize feelings when they occurred by using the awareness of life lessons to inspire his art.  Over the course of the last few sessions, this client said that he wanted to get into the practice of journaling, yet his in-action each week indicated otherwise.  (more…)

Our Transforming World

Wednesday, March 28th, 2007

(recently posted at www.lifebeforebusiness.com)

Yesterday I received The Institute of Noetic Sciences’ 2007 Shift Report with the title, “Evidence of a World Transforming” and a quote by Willis Harman (Global Mind Change), “We are living through one of the most fundamental shifts in history—a change in the actual belief structure of Western society.  No economic, political, or military power can compare with the power of a change of mind.  By deliberately changing their images of reality, people are changing the world.” (more…)

Dive Into the Deep

Wednesday, March 14th, 2007

(recently posted at www.lifebeforebusiness.com)

Whenever possible, a group of us love to take scuba diving vacations.  One vivid image burned into my mind is of our friend Vickie who enjoys swimming out past a wall dive at 70-80 feet and hanging out over the deep. With her arms and legs out to her sides in complete trust and abandon, Vickie hangs out in the middle of the deep enjoying the array of blue colors and the blissful feeling of trust and love.  Often times a huge tortoise, or other interesting fish, will swim out of the deep blue that she may have missed if she had stayed close to the wall with the rest of us. (more…)

A Different Kind of Blue

Tuesday, January 16th, 2007

Off and on for most of my life I have suffered from depression. It has shown up in a myriad of ways from melancholy and to lethargy.  Luckily, I’ve been blessed with a lot of good therapy, various 12-step programs and spiritual explorations not to mention medicines and foods to help me along the way.  I’ve learned to recognize when I am beginning to create a rut for myself and how to shift my perspective out of it.  One of the most helpful suggestions I have received is to focus on what I feel grateful about.  For a person battling depression, feeling nothing but dark can be difficult, but with all the help that I’ve described above and my creative mind, I have come up with one idea that has helped me and that I hope may be helpful for you when you want to “feel” grateful. (more…)

Choosing the Intent to Focus on for the Next 365 Days

Monday, January 1st, 2007

(recently published at www.lifebeforebusiness.com)

If there is a way for me to take a benign positive movie such as “The Secret” and turn it into a rocket ship fueled by neurosis to ponder and argue within my head about every positive point made in the movie—then I have done it.  I conducted this “mind dance” for several months before I realized that I had caught myself up inside of a hopeless spiral with no end in sight. (more…)

An Extra Serving of Gratitude….please!

Wednesday, November 22nd, 2006

 (currently posted at www.lifebeforebusiness.com)

I’m a citizen of the great ole U.S. of A. which means that during this time of year, “we” celebrate Thanksgiving.  At this time, most of us gather with family and friends to give thanks for the country that we are blessed to live within.  (more…)

Hummingbird Wings

Tuesday, August 29th, 2006

Did you know that an adult Hummingbird’s size is almost equivalent to a leaf on a Crepe Myrtle tree?  It’s that time of the year again when our back porch becomes the Hummingbird depot for various flocks and varieties of Hummers sporting ruby throats, emerald green bodies and spots of black and white.  If you’re not familiar with Hummingbirds, don’t let the docile paintings that you see in various arts and crafts stores fool you–these are feisty mammer jammers and they mean business! (more…)

Expand Your Horizons-part deux!

Saturday, August 12th, 2006

Consultants from around the world coming into Austin, I can see where my friend may have had a point.  We are each diplomats of our own country. More importantly we are diplomats of the human race.  Through the years I’ve come to know many peoples from India and have queried them (as much as they would allow!) about their experience being Indian. What does that mean to them?  How has being born in different areas of India impacted them? What are their beliefs?  Same with people from other countries such as Pakistan, China, Australia, New Zealand, England, South Africa, Viet Nam. The list is endless. The questions are too!  The most valuable gift I received from a Cultural Discrimination class was to ask people their experience of being them–don’t assume you know, because you don’t. (more…)